What Are You Afraid Of?
Your fears are strongest when it comes to failure, not measuring up to your own standards, or embarrassing yourself in front of other people. When you are afraid of not being good enough, you are allowing your insecurities to take control.
Your fear can present itself in a variety of ways. First of all, it's likely that you're your own worst critic. You're probably very judgmental of both your actions and your personality traits. You may also worry that others will mock your efforts if they are less than perfect. Individuals with this fear tend to hate public speaking and other responsibilities that would force them into the limelight. Unlike most people, types like you typically prefer to be in the shadows. Perhaps you feel it's safer there. After all, if you don't attract attention to yourself, no one is likely to put you under the microscope and find you lacking.
Believe it or not, there are certain benefits that can come along with this particular fear. For one, you're unlikely to embarrass yourself very often because you don't usually put yourself in situations where it would be a possibility. Also, because you're more concerned with your level of performance than most people, you're likely to be a diligent and dedicated worker. This is true for your personal projects, as well as in your professional life. You're probably also a great learner because you're the type of person who doesn't feel comfortable not knowing things. If you had your way, you might even want to be the expert on everything.
Still, because this fear is a large one for you, its negative effects are likely to outweigh the positive ones. When you let fear take hold you might find yourself feeling inadequate and tentative. This lack of confidence can drain your energy and even lead to depression.
Whether you're most afraid of social blunders, academic mistakes, or workplace gaffes, your fear of not being good enough may keep you from truly shining in your endeavors. Because you tend to take failures very personally, you may avoid trying things that you don't think you can get right the first time. By shying away from new challenges, you can keep yourself from broadening your horizons at work or in your personal life. At its worst, the fear of not being good enough can leave you paralyzed by self-doubt.
Fortunately, most people don't let their fears grow to these levels. Still, everyone can use advice on how to lessen fear's negative influence so that they can truly enjoy life.
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